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  • Life Transitions: 4 Truths about Seasons of the Heart

    Life transitions are at their most readily apparent in the late Summer-early Fall period: we feel the turning of the seasons — in nature and ourselves.

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    I’ve certainly felt this personally this year as the days move towards early September.  My youngest child is heading off to university this fall, and so this seasonal turning matches the turning of the seasons in my own life. Who knew there were so many seasons, so many life transitions in adulthood!

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    Seasons of Adulthood

    Well, it turns out psychologist Daniel J. Levinson did, or at least knew more about it than most of us.  His groundbreaking work on the seasons of men’s and women’s lives postulated four stages, overlapping to some degree, that run right through the life cycle: 1. Childhood and Adolescence (birth to 20);  2. Early Adulthood (17-45); 3. Middle Adulthood (40-65); and, 4. Late Adulthood (60 and up).  life transitions

    According to Levinson, each stage has a stable period, and transitional stages between it and the other stages.  Whether or not he gets these precisely right, it ‘s hard to avoid his basic intuition that life consists of stages and seasons — an intuition shared by Jung.

    Discerning the Time

    It’s essential to discern the season of our lives.  What is it that life is bringing to us at this time, right here, right now?  Can we see it?  Can we let it be what it is? Or are we straining to return to some long past reality, trying to fit the present into the mold of a now non-existent past?  Or, striving in some grim, relentless way to bring an as-yet non-existent future into existence, and, in the process, missing what life is bringing to us now?

    Or, am I stuck in a major life transition, knowing that I can’t remain in the past, but unsure about how to move into the future?

    Life Transitions: Embrace, Let Go

    September is a time that really brings home the realities of the seasons of our lives.

    Sometimes it’s hard to embrace the present moment and its meaning.  We’ll see this reality powerfully mirrored in the faces of some of our children as they face the reality of going back to school!  Still, we have to accept what our lives are, and what we face at the moment, in both our inner and outer worlds.

    We also have to be strive to be aware of the feeling response of our inmost being to the season — whether it is anxiety, acceptance, grief, yearning, or any other reaction.

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    Life Transitions of the Fall

    Here comes September, a reminder of the changing seasons and of the life transitions of men and women.  Here comes September, mirror of all the seasons of life, and of their call to us, as the Byrds remind us in the beautiful song “Turn, Turn, Turn”, with the words of the Bible sounding remarkably like the words of Lao Tzu:



    Life transitions, especially major life transitions, touch our depths.  Often /a-midlife-transition can help us find meaning, healing and direction in the midst of the seasons of our lives.


    PHOTOS: Attribution Some rights reserved Nicholas_T ;  VIDEO: © 2006 Sony BMG Entertainment (UK) Ltd.
    © 2013 Brian Collinson, 2238 Constance Drive, Oakville, Ontario (near Mississauga)
    1. jamenta


      August 28, 2013 at 12:13 am -

      Congratulations and best wishes to your daughter heading off to college Brian.

      1. Brian C
        August 30, 2013 at 6:59 pm -

        Thanks most kindly for your good wishes, John. And, as always, thanks for your comments! All the very best, ~Brian C

    2. Jennifer
      August 29, 2013 at 1:31 am -

      I fall readily into autumn and appreciate the softening, receptive energy as the earth gets quieter and more still.

      These late days of summer are so lovely. It is a most precious time to me, the sun has lost its force and there is a mellow tone to the days.

      I find this season really supportive, validating of my introverted personality. So rich and deep, yet there is still plenty of light and energy. A most nourishing time .

      Your thoughtful writing has given me a way into feeling and anticipating that once more.

      1. Brian C
        August 30, 2013 at 7:03 pm -

        Thank you for your insightful comments, Jennifer! I think that there is a very special, softer feeling to the season of autumn, and that it does resonate deeply with a lot of people who are introverts. I know that I find that myself, to quite some degree. I’m glad if my writing was part of this season opening up for you once again this year. Again, many thanks for your comment!

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