It's common for we humans to find that we have unfinished business in later life. We all carry different things that cry out for some kind of resolution.
"Who are you really?" is one of those cut-through-the-bumpf type of questions. If you ask it seriously of yourself, it can take you on quite a journey.
People pleaser personality traits are pretty common in our world. Many of us strive to meet the needs of others at all costs, even when we hurt ourselves
Making hard decisions is a theme that arises often in Jungian /a-midlife-transition work. I've discussed it before, but it's worthy of further exploration.